I went to see Stacy Krafczyk at Dawgs in Motion again. This time I took Rowan along to see what, if anything, she had to say. Once again it was a very interesting experience. This time, more so than last, it was also very emotional.
After greeting Stacy and allowing Rowan to sniff around a bit (she was apparently “talking” as soon as we walked in) I gave Stacy my first name and Rowan’s name, in effect giving her permission to talk with us. Rowan immediately turned from her investigations of the room, walked over to Stacy, bumped her in the leg with her nose and stared at her. Stacy looked at me and said, “You don’t work her as much anymore.” To say I was taken aback would have been an understatement. The statement was very accurate. I have gradually been using Quinn more and more to do chores and sort sheep for lessons and some nights haven’t worked Row at all. Apparently, that hasn’t sat well with her. I explained to Stacy that Rowan hadn’t been feeling well, she had a bout of vaginitis and wasn’t herself so I had given her a break. One of the questions I had for her was whether or not Rowan was feeling well now, if anything was bothering her. Apparently all is good except for an ache in the shoulder area and possibly around the hips.
Next Stacy just sat and listened to Row, telling me what she was feeling/saying. She told me Row feels she is the matriarch of the household and asked if that was the case. I told her no, Lace was still with us. She told me what, in my heart I know and what, with my eyes I have been seeing, the old matriarch is failing. Rowan senses that and sees herself filling that spot, has already done so. And so Stacy talked to Lace, described her as a very regal girl. As a dog who was very smart and independent and who had been, in her day, my partner in crime. She said Lace has had a very good life and shares a very strong bond with me that may make it hard for her to let go. She did not get the sense Lace would last the year, that she will leave us in the fall. I want Lace to prove her wrong, of course I do, how could I not. But that’s my heart talking. In my head I have been preparing for months for the inevitable.
We moved on then. Rowan feels she spends too much time in her crate. “Oh?” I looked pointedly at Rowan and asked her, “Whose fault is that?”
“How so?” Stacy asked.
I explained how Rowan would refuse to go in the kennel yard with Shaine, that she would rather run back to the garage and stand by her crate. Apparently Rowan isn’t all that fond of Shaine. She finds Shaine to be bossy and doesn’t feel they have a lot in common. She’ll play with her but would rather play with the boys. Although she wants me to neuter all the boys. She said it would be easier for her to keep them in line if they were neutered and it is her job to be the enforcer. Of the boys she likes Quinn the best.
When Stacy paused in talking to Row to talk to Shaine she mentioned Shaine feels she is above someone, there is a younger dog that comes in and out that she is “over”. A dog of very similar energy. Stacy thought perhaps we had lost a puppy or young dog and it was a spirit. I mentioned Tija’s dog Krave, Shaine’s “twin”. Stacy relayed something to me from Shaine that Krave had told her. I asked Tija about it and it turns out she was spot on. Not that I need too much convincing of Stacy’s credibility, but that certainly cemented things.
At the end of the sessions Stacy asks if there are any other questions. I really had none. I had already asked how Row was feeling and let her know how proud I am of her, how important she has become to me. So I went for the superficial and asked her if she could please do well at the upcoming stock trial and please listen to me. “She has it aced,” Stacy relayed. “She’s going to win. But you have to listen to her as well.” And, just as important, Stacy relayed a similar message as one found in a book I’ve recently read and had my students read as well. When we’re trialing, or even just training, what comes out of our mouth must match the image in our minds. When it doesn’t, that’s when things don’t work out. We can’t be thinking about things outside of ourselves, outside of what we’re doing, outside of the moment. We have to be immersed in that moment with our dog. When I think about the training sessions that have gone well, the trial runs that were smooth, last year’s ranch trial with Row, the one similarity is that I was in that moment. I wasn’t worried about something going on later that day or that week or that year. Wasn’t thinking about work, things I had to get done or things beyond my control. I was thinking about the run, the training, seeing in my mind how it had to go and those were always the best times. I have to try and do more of that.
Oh, and as a parting shot Stacy told me I was being tattled on. Someone was telling her I hadn’t listened. That I was supposed to slow down, perhaps, and hadn’t? I told her when she had seen Quinn I had asked why he’s always barking at me and the answer had been he was trying to “get me out of my head”. I have tried. But he’s probably right. Life makes it hard to get out of your own head sometimes, but I sure am going to give it more of a shot than I have been.

With the radar looking like this:


